Be kinder to yourself.
And then let your kindness flood the world.
And then let your kindness flood the world.
I started Queens on Purpose as a small group and a blog two years ago as a way to heal from loneliness and depression. I wanted to shift my focus from how I was feeling and the emotions and habits I was struggling with to living on purpose. I wanted to channel my energy into inspiring and connecting with other women to make progress in our growth and healing--and to be intentional about it. Well, it hasn’t been as easy as I thought it would be. This blog and my company is not at all what I had envisioned, but I remain prayerful and I am confident that I am progressing purposefully according to God’s perfect will.
What has been consistent throughout the process is the desire to heal. We all have some level of trauma or negative emotions that have impacted our lives and how we operate at one time or another--and we can be sure that as long as we’re on this earth that we will experience pain--making healing an ongoing process. So I am recommitting to my purpose for my sake, my daughter’s sake, and for anyone who reads any of my blog posts. I am aiming to offer insight on the various avenues we can take to get the healing we need--before and when we need it. I am also challenging every reader to reflect, to engage, and to be intentional about your progress. We are God’s masterpieces and we have a responsibility to ourselves and to each other.
With all that being said, I am introducing some new topic categories (and keeping some existing ones), and I am committing (as a part of my healing) to publish content regularly on these topics. The blogging community is growing so quickly, and sometimes I find myself comparing my blog to those of other popular bloggers. I often think about what I need to be doing that I see them doing. Then I remember that I am in competition with no one! I love supporting other bloggers and I will continue to do so, but I will not kill myself with comparison or try to do things that aren’t aligned to my purpose. So I thought about my avenues for healing both physically and emotionally--the areas in my life that have the potential to bring me lots of joy and peace, and how I can maximize that potential. Those avenues led me to come up with the categories that I’ll be kicking off this month! The current categories that will be staying are My Depression Battle and Reflections.
I often get comfortable with the way things are--even if they aren’t exactly working for me. Or I get lazy to do something about the things that aren’t working for me. I make excuses, or I think that things have been the same for so long that there’s no way they’ll change. ALL NOT TRUE! I’m pushing myself in these areas starting today! I hope that you will challenge yourself too, follow me on this journey, share your journey with me, AND celebrate our forward movement as a collective!
As-Salamu Alaikum Everyone!
My last post I vented about the response I received from the announcement about my reversion to Islam. I don’t like venting online, but I had to get it off my chest. And I’m glad I did, because I was able to hear from many of my friends, some whom I haven’t heard from in a while, with a lot of love and support. I was really encouraged and it gave me a second wind to post this follow-up.
However, instead of telling you about how my curiosity led me revert, I thought it would be of more value to clear up some of the misconceptions and false claims that came up after my initial post. I conducted an interview with my husband. He’s been Muslim for as long as he can remember, so I wanted to get his perspective on the concerns and questions some of my followers brought up. The interview was casual and on the fly. Neither of us are scholars, but seekers of the truth. I am happy to continue the conversation and answer any other questions regarding my personal experience, but I encourage you to conduct your own research and seek truth if you find yourself being curious or unsatisfied with what you hear. Thanks for listening!
The first question I asked was: Why the stigma and fear surrounding Islam and Muslims?
My last post was supposed to be the start of me sharing my journey to Islam. I spoke about how conversations and examination of how I dressed and carried myself led me to question what was best for my life, and sparked my curiosity about a religion that I was so ignorant about. You can probably guess by the title of this post that I have some regret…
I do not regret my decision to revert, however I deeply regret sharing it with my social media followers. I know that anytime we choose to share personal information via the internet that we should be braced for all kinds of responses. However, I wasn’t ready for this. I always tell my daughter, if you don’t have anything nice to say--don’t say anything at all…
Like when I shared that I was going through depression, and you said nothing at all…
Like when I invited you to my birthday party, and you said nothing at all…
Like when I said I’m starting a business, and you said nothing at all...
Or like when I really needed a friend--you called yourself a friend right--but you said nothing at all…
So this time of transition has been lonely, and it’s been hard. When I needed folks to ask questions and reach out--they weren’t there. No love lost... But when I decided to share this news, suddenly folks are concerned about Martina. I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around this.
Some of my friends and followers have become curious too and have asked questions--some of the same questions I was asking at first. And I really wanted to address those in a follow-up post because I think it’s really important that we be informed before we give unsolicited advice or share our opinions. It’s also important that people of other religions realize that casting judgement on people for their religious choices is wrong. Unfortunately though, I will not be addressing those questions. I encourage anyone who wants to learn to seek the information on their own. My energy is shot.
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